The Business of Single Women

When I listen to songs like "Statistics 101" by Lyfe, who was just involved in a domestic dispute with his baby mother, or read books by Steve Harvey and Hill Harper, who have questionable relationship history themselves, it makes me wonder who are those people to tell us how to get a man.

Let's be real, single women have become a business. Woe is the woman who decides she wants a career but cannot get a man. Or woe is the woman whose love life is a revolving door. There is nothing wrong with being single. Let me say that again, there is nothing wrong with being single. There are so many how to manuals on how to snag a man with rules or get married in 30 days and other b.s. it makes you wonder should you settle? I know happy and unhappy people in relationships and I know content and lonely single people. It's all about your perspective.

With the increase of focus on singledom, Black women have borne the brunt of it. We have attitudes, our men are in jail, they marry inter racially, we're too this, we're too that. The common news is that black women are single and less likely to be married than our white counterparts. Please note that these statistics do not count divorce. With the divorce rate being ridiculously high, divorce must play a part in this. But I digress.

Let's be real, everyone wants love but we live in an idealized world where love is replaced with fantasy. We watch TV where love is so simple and carefree, that we forget that this isn't the real world. I honestly believe that people shouldn't be married or have children until they're ready for it. That may be at 20 and others at 40. Whichever age, please be sure that you're ready for a relationship and not pressured into one. And please take note that these books are for entertainment not to be taken too seriously. Your mate will come when you're ready.