Like all dogs wanna go to heaven, all hoes, jump offs, girlfriends, fwb's, eternal fiances, long term partners, baby mamas, any title that is not wife, all want to be wives. When someone tells me they are content with being anything but a wife, I rarely believe them. While you may be "happy," you still want to be a wife. No one trains for a race aiming to win second prize. When you settle for the title of anything but wife, you are accepting second, third, honorable mention, and not even worth mentioning. Like Steve Harvey has said multiple times, "when a man loves you, he gives you a title." I'm going to take it further, when a man really loves you, he makes you his #1. He makes you his wife. Women, who have settled for being second place, have been vocal in their instance that being a wife is overrated. So is being a jump off.
Men are not complicated creatures. We, as women, make them complicated because we don't wan to accept the truth. Men have 3 basic needs, food, sex, and money, not complicated at all. They actually tell us what they want. They may not vocalize it but their actions say it. If a man is saying he doesn't want a relationship, listen to him, he's telling you the truth. If a man says he doesn't want to get married, pay attention. If he's cheating on you, leaving you high and dry, blowing you off,telling you he doesn't want to be with you and giving you an invitation to cheat, he's telling you he doesn't want to be with you and he doesn't respect you.
Move on. Stop wasting time with men whose only plans are to bust a nut. It doesn't take years to get married, if a man wants to marry you, he'll do it. Lamar Odom was in a relationship for 12 years and had 3 kids with the woman, married Khloe Kardashian, who he has no kids with, in a month. His long term girlfriend said he was a commitment phobe, no he wasn't, he just didn't want to marry you.
Sometimes you're not wifey or girlfriend, you're ol' faithful. Most women have played ol' faithful. I know I have. When I was in college, a "boyfriend" of mine, after a month separation, walked into my job kissed me and we were back together. Come to find out, he spent that month romancing 3 women, being Facebook official with one, and really wanting to be with my co-worker but her rejecting him for her boyfriend of 6 years. I was ol' faithful. I was the one he could be with when his options waned. He knew where I was and that all he had to do was kiss me and say some sweet nothings and it was back on. Don't be ol' faithful. He's not going to make you official, he's not going to realize how much he loves you and marry you, he's not going to stop chasing other women. You know why? Because he knows there's something better than you. If he does make you official, it'll only be because all of his options have dissapeared.
Don't settle for that. You deserve more. If you want to be married, find someone to give that to you. Don't settle for someone who only sees you as a filler. And when he comes back, which he will because men come back to ol' faithful because she's faithful, tell him to kick rocks. He won't change and he doesn't respect you.
Before I go, ladies stop having kids, buying houses, claiming to be engaged, basically playing wife to a man who has no intention to play husband. Stop doing that. When he puts the second ring on your finger, makes the vow in front of God, and signs the paper, then have the kids, buy the house, cars, have joint accounts, etc.
Move on. Stop wasting time with men whose only plans are to bust a nut. It doesn't take years to get married, if a man wants to marry you, he'll do it. Lamar Odom was in a relationship for 12 years and had 3 kids with the woman, married Khloe Kardashian, who he has no kids with, in a month. His long term girlfriend said he was a commitment phobe, no he wasn't, he just didn't want to marry you.
Sometimes you're not wifey or girlfriend, you're ol' faithful. Most women have played ol' faithful. I know I have. When I was in college, a "boyfriend" of mine, after a month separation, walked into my job kissed me and we were back together. Come to find out, he spent that month romancing 3 women, being Facebook official with one, and really wanting to be with my co-worker but her rejecting him for her boyfriend of 6 years. I was ol' faithful. I was the one he could be with when his options waned. He knew where I was and that all he had to do was kiss me and say some sweet nothings and it was back on. Don't be ol' faithful. He's not going to make you official, he's not going to realize how much he loves you and marry you, he's not going to stop chasing other women. You know why? Because he knows there's something better than you. If he does make you official, it'll only be because all of his options have dissapeared.
Don't settle for that. You deserve more. If you want to be married, find someone to give that to you. Don't settle for someone who only sees you as a filler. And when he comes back, which he will because men come back to ol' faithful because she's faithful, tell him to kick rocks. He won't change and he doesn't respect you.
Before I go, ladies stop having kids, buying houses, claiming to be engaged, basically playing wife to a man who has no intention to play husband. Stop doing that. When he puts the second ring on your finger, makes the vow in front of God, and signs the paper, then have the kids, buy the house, cars, have joint accounts, etc.
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