But What if He's Married?

I was going to write this post a few weeks ago but decided to scratch it when I had a case of writer's block, but seeing Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz wedding pictures reignited the question: what if he's married?

Man sharing has been in existence as long as people have been in existence. There has always been a woman: adulterer, whore, harlot, slut, hussy, man stealer, roller, homewrecker. These names all apply to women who are known to cohort with married men or sleep with multiple men. In cultures, where women outweigh men, polyandry or having more than one husband is accepted and encouraged but that's not what this post is about. I look at couples like Alicia and Swizz and Gabby and Dwayne who all had their starts during someone else's marriage and wonder why? Obviously their marriages are over but if they did nothing wrong, why wait until the divorce is final to go public. I'm just saying. If you did nothing wrong, go public before the divorce.

Everytime I see Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz, she's always smiling hard and he's always looking indifferent. I believe she does that to justify to the world her being with a recently divorced man, a little over four months divorced, and to show that she is really happy. She's trying too hard. There I said it. We're happy she found love and family, but finding at the expense of another family it too much. You can't build a solid long lasting foundation on a lie. It's a lie if the wife doesn't know.

There was a time when the wife was actually respected. She was viewed as the man's heart and the backbone of his home, now she's viewed as disposable. If a man is rich, there are thousands on women waiting to dethrone her. I don't know the circumstance behind the relationship but I know that God does not codone foolishness and dating a married man is foolishness. Any woman who sticks by a man they had an affair with is foolish. Yes, I said that they are foolish. They are making a committment to a man that has a proven track record of lying and cheating. You met this man lying and cheating and if you think you're going to change him, you're wrong.

Man stealing is nothing to be proud of. You may think you're a better woman than his wife but do you know who she was before life set in, before the kids and the responsibility. All you really know is what he tells you and that's usually a view that he has taken on to justify his cheating. I have seen very adulterous relationships turned marriages last. In fact, the husband usually has worse luck after his divorce. Of the men I see who left their wives for something better, little good has come of it. Both men are divorced and have lost everything. My first cousin was cheated on by his mistress who he later married and now he's going through a bitter custody agreement with his baby mother. My other cousin left his wife who he had a good life with for a woman with five kids by a few different men. They're currently divorcing and his life has never been the same.

If you love him so much, wait until the divorce is final and then date him.