Dear Royce, Have Several Seats

I need females to learn how to bow out gracefully. I know it's hard when the man you want to marry and have kids with (side eye) cheats on you and disrespects you for the world to see, but instead of acting crazy, bow out. I know the rules of relationships tend to be gray but if a man can disrespect you that easily, why stay and hope it gets better? It won't. Why? You have given him a pass. By you not leaving or making him work to get back in your good graces, he knows that he has an infidelity pass. All he has to do is tell you some bs and apologize and he's back in.You may have yelled at him or kicked him out for a few days but you probably called him first and nothing has changed. There are no consequences. There is no worry of losing you.If he left you, you'd probably apologize and ask him back.  You wonder why men often pine for that ex that won't take their ish and left them, even if they don't love her? It's because he respects her. No man will respect a woman who lets them walk all over her. It does not make them love you. If you're in a relationship with someone who is cheating and you want better, leave. It's the only way you'll get better. It may look better but trust he's still cheating on you and he will get caught. Creating standards and respecting them is the only way you'll get what you want out of your love life.

Now to Royce. Gurl, I hope you read that paragraph because we need to talk. Your man is cheating on you on Twitter and in real life and you don't want to leave him and you're going after his baby mama? Gurl, bye. I hate to hit below the belt but there is a reason why you have a revolving door of men. Maybe you should stop settling for a warm body and good looks and think deeper. You have a child, your standards should be sky high. If this man was only 22, why did you think he was ready to settle down and have children with you? It's obvious he's still playing the field. I get that it's embarrassing, but girl, move on. It's obvious that you two are in different places and if you stay with him, he will keep doing what he's doing. You and your son deserve better.

While we're at it, let's go in on your career choices. In your career, you also deserve better. Why are you on a show where no one likes you for no reason, you're constantly disrespected, and people refuse to work with you? For what? You can't be making more than $10,000 an episode, which is about $300,000 a year, which isn't bad but girl, why? Why put yourself through this? You say you have books and are in a play, where can I find your book? Where can I see your play? If you're gonna go through this abuse, can you at least plug your stuff? No, because Shaunie won't even talk to you. You need to rethink your career choices. Rethink your life in general.