Marriage was not designed to make you happy, satisfied, or whole. If you go into it for any of the aforementioned reasons, you’re in for a rude awakening.
We often wait for that proverbial day when we have everything we want to be happy, satisfied, or whole. We often begin sentences with "wait until I get..." Or wait until we cross a certain milestone to go after the things that we feel make us "happy, satisfied, and whole." Life is work personified. Anything you want in life requires extra work. You should be grateful that you woke up in your right mind, your legs work, you can see, hear, walk, and talk. The fact you even woke up is something to celebrate because that's more than life was obligated to give you.
We know too many people who are married, successful, and wealthy but are still searching for something. They were lost before they found these things and are more lost now that they have them. You have people who by the world's standards should be happy, whole, and satisfied but they found themselves miserable, broken, and unsatisfied. The ability to be happy, whole, and satisfied is an internal condition. You have to decide you want it and accept it.
I feel sorry for my generation because we've been tricked into believing that we can buy happiness, satisfaction, or wholeness. We've also been tricked into believing that things come easy and hard work is overrated. The truth is, as hard as we've been trying to find a substitute for hard work, we can't because there is no substitute. To be successful in anything, marriage, life, career, etc, you must put in the work. Also, for you to enjoy the result of your hard work, you must already be happy, satisfied, and whole. All of those things come from the inside.
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