Sex and Intimacy

Tyler Perry said something poignant in his play, “A Madea Christmas.” He said, “the bible says Joseph knew Mary, that means you should know the person you’re sleeping with.” Call Tyler Perry preachy, old school, or whatever name you have for him, but he made a good point. You should know the person you plan to give your body to. I’m not saying you should be married or in a serious relationship to engage in sex, but you should know something about the person you’re sleeping with. I don’t understand why people put such little value on their body that they will give their body to a stranger but won’t kiss them. You’ve already given them something precious. I also think its backwards that people have sex then get to know each other. It’s called intimacy for a reason. You should have some sort of intimacy with the person you’re about to have sex with. 

To some people, sex is like scratching an itch. You get that urge, you handle it and move on. So much can happen with “scratching the itch.” You can get AIDS, STD’s a condom doesn’t cover, you can get pregnant. The only 100% proven method of prevention is abstinence so if something goes wrong, i.e a baby or a disease, you can get in touch with this person. Because there is no fool proof method of birth control, except abstinence, you should look at every person you're sleeping with as the potential mother or father of your child. You should wonder if you want to be involved with this person for the rest of your life. How embarrassing would it be to sit in a clinic and be unable to give an accurate name for the person who gave you this disease?

Everything has a price, even no strings attached sex. I don’t care what the media portrays or what the rap songs tell you, sex is not cheap or free. Too many people, especially women, try to substitute sex for love; it doesn't work like that. A man can love having sex with you, but if he doesn't love you, that's all it will be is sex. I keep saying it but it bears reiterating, there is more to sex than busting a nut. Sex was not created to help you scratch a proverbial itch, sex was created to bond a man and a woman. It's supposed to be a physical manifestation of their love for one another. That's why it's hard to shake a person you've had sex with. That's why good sex will make people stay in bad relationships. Sex will bond you to a person you shouldn't be bonded to. This is why men get Lifetime Pussy Passes. That is the name of pass a man has when he has free reign to have sex with a woman, no matter their relationship status. Diddy has one with all his baby mamas, besides Misa Hyton, Matt Barnes has one with Gloria Govan, Toni Braxton's ex-husband has one, Towanda's husband has one, Gilbert Arenas has one, and Fabolous has one with Emily. Regardless of how this guy treats this woman, he retains his LPP.

Be selective about who you give your body to. Your body is precious and you should treasure it as such. What happens to something that has a high supply? The demand goes down, thus meaning the value goes down and the quality of the owners go down. Your body is like that. The more you share it, the more your stock decreases, as does the value of the people you give your body to.